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Empathy or Compassion? What To Do When You Feel “Too Much.”

Do you ever think that you feel “too much” or you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders?

If you are in the human service work you are likely to be naturally empathic. In fact, you have chosen that line of work as you seek meaning and purpose by helping others. You’ve probably felt overwhelmed as you find yourself stepping into another people’s shoes experiencing their physical or emotional pain even before they dare to express their feelings. In NeuroCoaching, this is called, “Empathic Distress.”

If you identify yourself as an empath, an effective way to avoid getting lost and distressed in the emotional experience of your loved ones or clients is by setting healthy emotional boundaries, and developing emotional awareness. “Moving from feeling with to observing, openly, engaged, with a curious listening stance with good boundaries can make challenging interpersonal work not only more rewarding but it can also increase feelings of efficacy to prevent feeling chronic stress and burnout.”

Keep in mind that you can serve another person to the best of your abilities when your compassion propels you to take action and give the assistance or support needed. Overwhelm and burnout, on the other hand, may lead you to suppressing or avoiding, not only the negative emotions but all emotions, decreasing your willingness to serve.

As Olga Klimecky states on her article, “The Plasticity of Social Emotions,” Neuroimaging findings, complemented by results from behavioral studies, show that compassion is linked to helping and forgiveness behavior, whereas empathic distress not only decreases helping behavior, but is even associated with increased aggressive behavior.

Within the next weeks, I will be sharing science-based strategies that you can implement in your daily life to help you increase self-awareness, self-compassion, and compassion towards others so you can stay emotionally balanced and thrive, as you navigate the world with its unavoidable pain and chaos. Are you interested in this series? If you’re not receiving the newsletter in your inbox, subscribe here!

“Empathy is our general capacity to resonate with other’s emotional states, whether it is positive or negative. Compassion is the feeling of warmth and concern for another person’s suffering which is accompanied by the motivation to help (Singer, Klimecky.)”

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T1 – Professional Distress and Meaning in Health Care: Why Professional Empathy Can Help
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DO – 10.1080/00981389.2015.1046575
JO – Social work in health care
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Empathy and compassion

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“It is not in the human heart to put ourselves in the place of those who are happier than ourselves, but only in the place of those who are most to be pitied.” ~Emile Rousseau 🌹 ▪️ 🔻 ▪️ Did you know that humans are wired to share the distress of others but react less to the joy of others? Brain imaging demonstrates that the brain reacts far more to distress and sadness of others than to their joy. #innergymaster . . . . . . As NeuroCoach, I teach mindfulness and other brain-based tools to help healers and health practitioners to develop a healthy empathic attunement so they can enhance the client’s healing process while reducing the practitioner’s risk of distress and burnout. Message me to hear about these tips! . #neuroscience #neurociencia #empathy #avoidburnout #empath #healthyempathicattunement #compassion #meditation #mindfulness #empathic #empoweredwomen #healer #brainpower #brain #innergymaster #coachlilian #successcoach #leadership #womenonamission #ursoulpurpose

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To a mindful life,

Liliam

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Soothe Your Soul

🖋”Writing is the doorway to our inner wisdom. I call it, soul-journaling because it helps me decipher my most intricate dilemmas while finding peace and contentment despite of the challenges I face.” Lilian Llanos

🌸 I used to recommend journaling as a tool for emotional release and getting clear about the vision of your life. 🌸 Well, I must take part of that back and this is the reason why.

🌸 As I’ve immersed myself in neuroscience research, I’ve found out that the notion that it is healthy to express your negative emotions has been disproved by hundreds of psychological and neurological studies. In fact, the opposite is true, the more you write about a particular event that made you anxious, angry, or depressed, the more you will entrench it into memory.

🌸 So, please, if you’re still journaling about your crappy experiences and beliefs, this is what I suggest you do instead, write only one sentence about the “problem” and then write about all the possible ways you can resolve it. In this way you’ll create an experience that is uplifting and that turns on your problem solving area of your brain, and help you find peace and hope. #innergymaster

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Empower Goals with a Vision Board

We are hearing more everyday about the power of the human mind. I have devoted the last months to do a research on the neuroscience of motivation and its role in the achievement of goals. The subject is vast and deep but I’d like to focus today on the power of the vision board. Neuroscience research shows that motivation is driven by the anticipation of future rewards and creating a vision board will certainly help us anticipate success.

Before proceeding, let me share a brief description of the vision board for those who are new to this concept.

Essentially, a vision board is a collage of pictures and words that illustrates the life you want to live.

I am not explaining a step by step process to create your vision board per se, but describing in a few words how vision boards can help you change your mindset and keep you motivated and focused on your goals.

  • A vision board enhances your ability to create and to hold a consistent visual image of your desired goals in your mental screen
  • It is not only a reminder of your destination but also a tool to track your accomplishments
  • The process of creation of the vision board gives you the opportunity to infuse your projects with the passion that only you can add to make your dream a reality
  • It helps you stay focused, motivated and committed
  • You will experience yourself as if you were already the person you want to become or had that what you are wanting to obtain.  This gives you a stronger sense of self-confidence and self-worth
  • It increases your ability to close the gap between the possible and the reality
    With that being said, I’m leaving here a few tips to help you kick start or take your success a step further.
  1. Connect to your intuition to determine and prioritize your goals
  2. Make a vision board that encompasses some or all areas of your life: love, career, relationships, health & fitness, friends & family, finances, creativity, personal growth and travel and fun, or create one for a specific area or goal (a new home, a change of career, etc)
  3. You may also choose to create a board for one single area, or goal (Weight loss, love, new job/career, etc)
  4. Charge your board with your best energy. Make the process fun and exciting!
  5. Use the most appealing pictures and words that best represent both, your personality and big dreams
  6. Illustrate also emotions and states of mind (patience, strength, etc)
  7. Place your board on a place where you see it often and practice experiencing the feelings of having it all, now!

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Liliam Llanos has worked as a healer and certified life coach for over 15 years. She brings together mindfulness techniques and brain research-based tools to show her clients how to overcome trauma, increase their self-esteem, and create greater balance, growth, and a meaningful life.  As a neurocoach, Lilian is also committed to bringing awareness and integration of science-based strategies to the healing community. She is fluent in both English and Spanish.

Article Source: Expert Writer Lilian Llanos, NeuroWisdom 101

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What We Think, We Become – Buddha

As I work with students and clients, I become more aware of the truth within these wise words, “What we think, we become.” Buddha

“Without exception, that which you give thought to is that which you begin to invite into your experience.”

~ Abraham hicks

I always emphasize the importance of aligning the vision of your desire with both, thoughts and words. This is what Innergy Alignment Mastery is about. Having a clear image of that what you want to manifest, and monitoring your thoughts as much as possible will determine your rate of success. You may notice that initially, it will take a conscious effort to avoid  giving more energy to what you don’t want to manifest in your life.

Abraham Hicks explains it this way, “When you see something you would like to experience and you say, “Yes,I would like to have that,” through your attention to it you invite it into your experience. However, when you see something that you do not want to experience and you shout, “No, no, I do not want that,” through your attention to it you invite it into your experience.”

There is always a correlation between your thoughts, words and your reality. The Law of Attraction is always at work, whether you are aware of it or not. Just as the law of gravity and many other laws. We become what we think, but have you ever wondered why is so easy to ruminate on negative thoughts? Neuroscience shows that we are wired to constantly ruminate on negative thoughts, feelings, and fantasies. Unfortunately, doubts and fears are normal -even essential – psychological processes that are hardwired into our brain’s anatomy. One side of our prefrontal cortex is a “pessimist,” a cautionary inner voice telling us to wait (procrastinate). The other side is an optimistic problem solver. Many self doubts are memories being replayed. They aren’t real, but we sometimes believe they are. These can be reduced through positive psychology training, mindfulness, and various neurocoaching strategies designed to build self-esteem and confidence.

What we think, we become Buddha
What we think, we become. Buddha

By now, you must be wondering, but how is it possible that I could be creating I  an undesirable reality? The fact that  the thoughts that create your reality aren’t clear in your consciousness, due to the gap in time between the moment when you held such thoughts and the time they manifested in your experience, makes it even more dificult to grasp.

I invite you to look back into you to keep your mind open as you read the story below from one of my clients that I will call, Nancy.

“I had been recently promoted to a managerial position, promotion that I had worked hard to achieve for a long while. At the same time, I was finally getting in touch with my true calling in life. I remember talking to some friends with excitement about my future with my new found passion. Also, how I didn’t see myself sticking with a job like the one I had that hardly provided any feeling of fulfillment in my life.

I kept performing my job duties without being fully committed to the company I worked for. I couldn’t wait to leave the place but at the same time, it was hard to let go of the position and benefits I had. Almost by the time of my next anniversary, I received the news that after a company restructure, my job position was no longer needed. I was bitter, and all I could see was myself as a victim. It was just unfair that they could do that to me and not even give me a good reason to support their decision. I knew nothing about the law of attraction and the power of our thoughts then, but as I started working with you, I realized how I had created the experience just with the thoughts and even the literal and verbal expression of my desire of “not wanting or intending to stay stuck” in that type of job.”

What has been your experience with the law of attraction? Can you pinpoint a specific experience and the thoughts that created the desired or undesired experience?

Please share your comments below or on our community facebook page now!

Lilian Llanos has worked as a healer and certified life coach for over 15 years. She brings together mindfulness techniques and brain research-based tools to show her clients how to overcome trauma, increase their self-esteem, and create greater balance, growth, and a meaningful life.  As a neurocoach, Lilian is also committed to bringing awareness and integration of science-based strategies to the healing community. She is fluent in both English and Spanish.

 

 

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